Just want to vent

Idk I get that and that sucks, but he has made a heartfelt apology and is willing to reflect on and to change his toxic behaviours, his post history shows that he is constantly trying and is consistently going to therapy. This stuff about him making the apology so he "seems better" in her eyes, it's like he's been gaslit to the point of delusion. He can't even make an apology without feeling like an abuser and his perception of reality seems skewed.

Seems uncharacteristic for an abusive narcissist to be so intensely remorseful. It's weird for someone to be so dismissive and unwilling to hear him out.some people do gaslight others to make them think they have NPD or are abusive, when in fact they are just projecting. I'm sure OP isn't perfect but maybe she is making him think he's a lot worse.

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