Ladies, I am right there with you. There isn't a day that goes by where I wonder whether I'm not really a Romantic. I'm totally not (can't wear ruffles, curls, too much lace, the jewelry, flower prints, etc - instant "silly"), but it's my 'fleshy' bits that make me doubt, all the time. Fleshy upper arms, fleshy thighs, generous behind - no matter my weight, even when underweight. A lot of my perception comes from this societal conditioning that we're all supposed to look like coathangers (or extremely underweight FN runway models). We yin-leaning ID's, even balanced ones, will never look like that. If anything, Kibbe is great to help us forgive our and finally let ourselves off the hook - we're not flawed, we're just "yin".