Great point on contributing to overall value as a man but again based on my experience dating around there’s a dilemma:

Girls whom I have great sex with are usually hotter, more sensual, albeit dumber, and they usually enjoy attracting other guys

Girls who are smart, capable and clever and not too fit and I have no urge to fuck then at all

I’ve not met a girl who’s hot, great at sex, good personality and very clever- this is very much the definition of a ‘unicorn’ or ‘soulmate’ - if I were that girl I’d not commit to a guy/ even if I’ll date someone like brad Pitt I’ll ruin his fking life.

Basically I don’t think such girl exists; there’s always a trade off, and people change over time

Well perhaps this is the answer I’m looking for