Why have kids when you are facing up to 20 years in prison

This is exactly what I'm thinking when I think about pregnancy/having a baby. My partner and I literally spoke about it yestarday since the park we were in was full with pregnant women and children.
For the first 1-2 years of their life, children can't even speak or just use some words. They eat, shit, sleep, throw tantrums and repeat. I love me some sleeping in and my life is already stressfull enough (I bet you that the momzillas would come at me witht he good old hardship one upper line "YOU are tired? I'm parenting a toddler uh, you don't know tired, you can't be tired"), so no thanks.
Then they are at kindergarten and later in school, and that sounds great, right? Well, you have to pick them up in the afternoon and deal with their cranky ass and if they are in school, you have to help with the homework. I remember that I wasn't given much help because my younger sister needed more help. Which is understandable, but by more help my parents meant only helping her. I was basically self teaching myself and you can expect how it turned out for a 9 years old lmao.
At 12-13, children become teenagers, the hormones kick in, they are rebellious, they hate their parents usually and get int heir room and only come out for school, toilte breaks ans snacks. Sounds amazing, parenting a little person who doesn't listen to you and doesn't give a shit about anything.
And then when they become young adults, they will at som point move out and barely visit you, because they have their own life, which is normal. So yay, people really be giving themselves around 20 years of stress and ungratefulness with additional slave labour (because someone needs to clean the house and cook and them kids ain't doing it most of the time).

I know I gave my mom a 2 decade prison, but I'd love to think it's not my fault. I'm 22 and I still live at home, although I want to move out and start my own life with my partner. We live in Hungary, and the housing might not be so expensive, but the salaries aren't high either. I'm just grateful that my partner will be able to support us while he will be working and I will be in university studying for my degree.
And yes, my mom loves to say that she already moved out at 18 and had us in her 20s. The only "problem" is, that she conviniently forgets that my dad is 22 years older than her and by the time they started dating, my father had already a house, a car and a generally good existance. So ofc it was easy for her to be able to move out and have my sister and I while she didn't have to work almost at all in her entire life.

Sorr for the rant everyone.

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