A very astute observation, and a healthy touch of balance for a topic that usually rallies witch-hunting. In any situation where there is wrongdoing, we like to attribute immorality to someone and make them responsible. Sometimes this is an accurate reflection of the truth, sometimes it isn't. As Kyle rightly points out, many instances of assault or misconduct find their origin in clumsiness and stupidity on the part of the oppressor rather than calculated decisions, or 'they knew what they were doing'. Obviously, stupidity is not a sufficient excuse for innocence, but it's important to hesitate before we automatically outline these individuals as consciously evil. Kyle's listed 'social interaction tips' are the exact type of educational pointers that does away with this kind of stupidity.