Ladies, how do you deal with your SO leaving on a trip?

There's probably some reason that he's like you- you probably not a perfect person (as none of us are), but there's something that he probably really likes about you, or he wouldn't be with you.

There's always going to be someone out there that's 'better' than you are, by whatever criteria that you want to judge people by. You can take those people as motivators, or as a reason to jump off of a bridge- that's up to you.

Unless you think that your bf is a complete loser who's only with you because he drew the short straw, I'd try to have some confidence that he may be a decent guy, and has actually chosen you to be with. Everyone has multiple chances every day to cheat, and most people don't.

How do I get out of this mindset?

Don't depend on anyone else for your 'happiness', because that's not fair, or realistic. They'll do something wrong at the wrong moment for the mood that you're in, they'll look at another person, they'll say something stupid. That's always going to happen in relationships, but when you're confident in yourself, those are momentary annoying blips, not the end of the world.

Until you learn to be happy with who you are, and what you have to offer, and to take (most) people at face value with what they do and what they say, you will eventually be disappointed. A partner can add to your happiness and self-esteem, but it's a losing battle to expect them to provide that for you.

And blunt talk- if he's the type to cheat, and they are somehow 'destined' to be together- better to find that out now rather than when you're dealing with kids and mortgages. You and your partner are probably never going to be together 24/7, and you'll always have reasons to think that he might be cheating on you or might 'do better' unless you learn to value yourself.

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