Ladies, if you're not averse to talking on the phone, what is your opinion of getting a spontaneous call from someone you've just started dating?

And that’s exactly why I don’t text first.

Is someone supposed to be impressed that you refuse to pick up on social cues? Are you just so bad at picking up social cues that you can't tell this will land badly, too? Or do you just like making people around you dislike interacting with you?

Modern etiquette is severely broken, and I honestly believe that people are (1) losing a huge part of the human experience because of it,

The modern etiquette we're discussing is texting before calling. That must be so hard for you. You do realize that the telephone is a relatively modern invention, too, right? So, like, I can call someone using a digital tool... But texting them using the same tool is just too much for you? Pathetic.

setting themselves up for relationship failure by adhering to it.

This is only true if they're trying to make a relationship with a luddite. The rest of us can manage text messages just fine. I can't imagine what your problem is... Seems like you got a stick up your ass 20 years ago and haven't caught up with us since.

How closely does a casual relationship in which 50% of communication is done via text......how closely does that resemble a relationship in which you live together

This is fucking stupid. Either you live together or you don't. You text more when you don't. Then, as the relationship progresses, you move in together.

It's not like before texting you moved in on the first date. What are you even comparing here? Phone calls are not like living with someone either. You're just spouting nonsense.

How closely does that relationship mirror one in which you might even have kids some day?!

Who cares? Not everyone wants kids. Relationships without children are just as valid as any other relationship.

It doesn’t. Bottom line

Yours don't. But ignorantly blasting your judgment of other people's relationships that you don't know anything about simply because they communicate via text is at least insulting to many people here, and closer to just being an asshole for no reason. Go get over yourself.

And that is why, to be quite frank, I find some of the responses in this thread deeply troubling.

I'm probably going to be very troubling to you, then. Best to avoid me.

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