Ladies, I need your advice for some tumblr drama!

*i'm making the assumptions that: y'all were good friends before this, that this passive aggression is not typical of her, and she was acting in good faith until she was passive aggressive towards you*

Honestly, I'd send her the post and ask her what's up via messenger. Mention something about how regardless of her intentions, her actions hurt you and that needs to be addressed. I'd also mention that because y'all are friends (or were friends), if she had an issue with you or your event she should have talked to you about it so y'all could hash it out or you could clear up any misunderstandings. Cause chances are, whatever bothered her was a misunderstanding on her part and/or not intentional on yours, in which case that's easily a situation that friends are able to work out. And in lieu of that, she should have refrained from making that passive aggressive post.

I mean, xkit and tumblr savior exist for a reason. She could have easily blacklisted your event name if it was bothering her that much or she felt inadequate due to it (both not your problem obviously) or just quietly unfollowed people for the time being.

She had plenty of options. There was no reason for pettiness, and if she already made up her mind that you're a terrible persontm for whatever reason then she should have unfollowed you and still blacklisted the event cause hate following is not a good look.

I don't know, like I completely get if she just didn't have the words or spoons really to tell you what the problem was, but she doesn't get to turn around and act passive aggressive like that. It's totally the cool motive, still murder.gif in how it's ok to feel inadequate or low, but it sure as fuck isn't ok to take it out on other people. I'm really sorry that you have to deal with this :/

Congratz on the successful event though, DBZ for life!

*if she usually is a petty person, still send her a message to address the situation but then cut her off after that. (You don't need that foolishness in your life) The message is so that you have a paper trail of the situation in case things takes a turn for the worse and people start coming at you; screen cap everything\*

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