The detachment was what made me really uncomfortable in the original post. “How do we do this and what’s the catch?” just did not sit right w me. The title of this post is admittedly not the nicest thing I’ve ever written but LAOP’s cavalier attitude really rankled me. I was in foster care myself and it’s honestly really hard to feel sympathy for some of these foster parents at times—the original post made it seem like their son is more of an unwanted houseguest than a vulnerable member of their family, and LAOP’s post history screams professional foster parent. It’s all just very unsettling.

Splitting custody w CPS might be a very good option for LAOP and their son. But LAOP’s son’s ultimate success relies on a lot more than just state sponsored programmes.

Adopted and fostered kids shouldn’t be made to feel thankful that someone was willing to take them at all. If you cannot take care of a high needs child, or even anticipate that problems will intensify when the child hits puberty, you are not the appropriate guardian for that child, and no amount of, they’re trying their best!!! doing a thankless job!!!!!! is going to change that.