the enemies don't wear uniforms, and the civilians often approach the soldiers threateningly or throw rocks.

I don't like that they are considered "the enemies" in the first place, and of course civilians will throw rocks at them: they're an occupying force.

I have a hard time not blaming Israel for the entire mess, because they just forced themselves into a land and forced out its indigenous people. So ultimately, the onus is on Israel to find ways to minimize deaths, for example by not allowing settlers to take more and more land, by even given up some land and power, by allowing more Palestinians to have positions of power, by not blocking humanitarian aid, by providing humanitarian aid, and all in all, by loving their so-called enemies (that wouldn't be their enemies if they didn't take their land and continue to take their land).

I don't understand why Israel was created in the first place, especially the way in which it was created, but now that it exists, I believe it has a right to exist--yet they also again are ultimately responsible for all of the fallout from something they started.

(I know Jewish people have been oppressed, genocided, and displaced for millennia, but so have many peoples throughout history, and we don't just plant nations for them in the middle of other people's land).