It's really not "destructive," though. If anything, it's a much needed and long overdue counterculture. There's a reason OP's friends and date acted the way they did. A self-serving narrative of fat acceptance, "cundishins," and other such nonsense are slowly permeating mainstream culture to the point that acknowledging fat to be unhealthy or not being attracted to fats is no longer "acceptable."

Fuck. That. What happened to OP happened because that shit's gone unopposed too long. We're the ones in the gym while they're sucking down whole fried chickens like Jake "Joliet" Blues. We're the ones crafting and refining our diets while they're sucking down sodas and vlogging in tears because their doctors told them their breathing problems are due to the fact that they're morbidly obese.

We're the ones they want to fuck. They know it. We know it. /u/AyeAyeCaptain knows it. No amount of bans, downvotes or mutes is going to change that. They can scream all they want about "bigotry," "thyroids," and lions and tigers and bears. But when not pretending people are responsible for their own weight gain and not being attracted to the fat fucks is no longer acceptable, then I'll never be acceptable. And I wasn't raised to halfass things.

I don't need to silence them to feel okay with myself and my body. I don't need a bubble where I pretend that nothing's my fault and I'm beautiful just the way I am. Fact of the matter is that I'm living my life the way I want, and I'm not going to let them shake me over it like they did OP. There's nothing "destructive" about that. I'm making goddamned sure they can't forget that no matter how many "effyourbeautystandards" hashtags they put out, no matter how much they try to shame us, that they are repulsive at the end of the day. They fired the first shots. We're just the natural response. And it feels fucking fantastic.