The only thing I know is that a previous partner turned out to be gay. You might think duh, of course she is freaking out. This idiotic guy is not even touching me, not again. But those of us who start dating again after years of marriage deserve a break. I mean, what else do you expect? Is not like riding a bike. I have literally no memory of what being wanted feels like, none at all. Unless you place a sign on your forehead stating "take me now" I would have no clue. I think people have no idea how to date a DB surviver. It's specially hard on men in our society, since we are expected to always make the first move. (I loved it when previous partners dared to be naughty and make a move instead of waiting, but that is rare where I live. Utah, USA) I don't blame her however. We just live in a fast pace world where people are disposable. We expect to know everything that is important in one or two dates, then move on to what's next. Just like we don't take the time to read a book but rather watch a movie, getting to know someone takes time. I'm just as guilty, I know I have committed the same sin, it's only now that I'm at the receiving end that hurts. So I say be ware. If you rush things You'll never know what you are missing.