This one is still in the progress, but it still has its many confusions and cheeses.
Co worker and I started working around a few ago at the same company. We started the same day. We're both in our twenties, but he's about 6 years older. He's one of those incredibly smart, awkward, and handsome nerds. I didn't think much of about him at first other than that he sounded and walked a bit "gay." I actually disliked him at first, he was incredibly good at his job and was always many times faster and better than me.
Two months back, out of the blue he invites me to go hang out with him (at a shooting range), I had to decline due to a previous commitments. But soon after we'd hang out at least 5-10 hours a week after work at his invitation. The first time we hanged, he took me to his favorite bars in the city. Drinks after drinks, everyone became looser and I asked him who he would bang in the bar. He said something along the lines of: "pink shirt." I look across the bar for a lady in pink, couldn't find one. I did a double take, and the only one in pink was an older beefy guy. His friends were a bit shocked and I covered and told everyone that it was fine and I was "super bi." I tried to impress him thereafter by doing a lot more shots than I was capable of, rest assured I booted on the streets and he had to uber me home.
After that day, I had my hopes up and hanged out with him more (on his invitation, I really need to take the lead here). He soon wanted me to train him in the gym. He's a bit lanky and skinny fat and I've just cut down to 11% bf with pretty decent strength from cross fit. Watching him trying to lift a 20Ib plate might have been the saddest thing I've seen, but that was one of the happiest hours I've spent at the gym. He soon wimped out and I've been subtly trying to convince him to come back to workout with me. He enjoys mothering people, especially me. He's always telling me to wear a jacket and asking me if I'm better with my cold etc. Once when we're out and a girl whom I danced with unbuttoned my shirt, he's quickly buttoned them up again, trying to make me "look less drunk than I was." I find it endearing and annoying that he treats me like a kid.
It's been more confusing and endearing recently. He's been more open about girls and the typical locker room talk. I recently tried to find out what he finds attractive in guys, and he showed me his "one guy" who turned out to be basically Tom Brady. I was a bit depressed after that. And the same time, he's became incredibly blunt about how he'd want to spend more time with me. Every time I've told him that I've not been somewhere, he would reply with: "let's go." So far, we're going to vegas and Europe. One night, he had tried to make fun of me and a girl from work by calling her my "work wife." I promptly corrected him that with all the time we spent together, he was my real work wife (I showed him the next day that I had changed his contact name to work wife in my phone, he was fine with it). He's told me that he hates having roommates, but just recently invited me to rent out a room when he buy an apartment, at "10% below market." Overall it's been an confusing journey for me. We've only known each for two months really and he's shared with him his deepest fears and insecurities and I all my embarrassing attempts to impress him. Even though he confuses me to no end, but I'm not going to think too much into it and just ride the wave. I'm trying to convince him to go paint balling with me but he's a bit out of shape (but like hell was I going to let anyone shoot at him). In the end, I hope I can be more than a companion to him. I know I'm a bit impatient but It just wouldn't hurt to have him playing his silly video games in my lap.