I'm surprised on how "hurt" the majority of you guys are. It's almost like all of you are saying that the gay culture or gay man behaviour is immaculate. And anyone saying slightly negative things about it is wrong.

I can't stop remembering a quote, "the truth hurts". What the op is saying is debatable, but it doesn't exclude it's veracity. I've seen this kind of behaviour over and over. The conception of calling that part of the culture, I see it because it's so outspread that almost become a cultural thing.

I know a bunch of us that don't behave like that, but that doesn't invalidate its existence. And I acknowledge it. And some of those are the reason I feel tired of the "gay community". Not in a bad way, but really tired. Specifically because some of those behaviours are seen as norms. And at lot on young gays end up neck-deep in that without even thinking, and take years to realize that some of that are not part of their personality.