I get what you all mean here but also if someone is worrying about another persons safety and wishes them good ouck and such and then a rando jumps in with the well actually its bound to get annoying its the read the room situation imagine two people who were in a fight apologise to each other and all that and then a third person just butts in about a random thing in the middle at that point it doesnt need to be an umm actually or well actually its still annoying ofcourse here its a bit different here its akin to someone sending a get well card and then someone else scribbles on it with actually this is supposed to be they if someone wants to know they ask and if the person themselves get bothered about being misgendered they tell ya which corina did probably but you get the point no need to tell info to someone who doesnt want to know it