Well with regard to the kids thing I didn't mean it in a scary way...you get over the fear about 5 minutes after you get the kid home from the hospital when you realize you have to take care of the precious little human since they can't take care of themselves. What I meant regarding how that changes things is just that for the first couple of years kids need constant attention since they can't really do anything for themselves when they are babies/toddlers so you find that you get so wrapped up in taking care of the kiddo that you don't have as much time as you used to for each other and you are really tired. So you just have to make an effort to find time to have conversations and spend time together. In my experience, in thinking about my own relationship and other couples I know who have kids, the people who had a strong bond and relationship to begin with are the ones who come through the stress of the first couple of years of parenthood still "inctact." The ones for whom having kids causes problems in the relationship tend to be the couples who were already having problems. So if you guys have a solid foundation of love and togetherness then having kids will be something that, while trying and stressful at times, will in another way enhance your bond.