Let's talk! Are CG/l relationships more prone to consumerism and materialism than other dynamics?

I imagine for a few it's all about buying all the things, the same way that applies to any interest group. I think the most of those posts are by people who are relatively new to this (a few years in), and bloody finally have a safe place to vent, extremely keen to share anything with a place they now know they are part of. Items that might interest others are usually much safer to share than emotions or stories, and most importantly the easiest to share. Just snap a picture, post it and you're done. People are happy, you're happy, everybody's happy - that kind of group safety and comfort; quick and easy satisfaction.
 
Being too vulnerable outside of your safety zone sucks, and for me at least is reserved to my partner (while I have nothing but admiration and gratitude for those who are open about it). I barely ever buy things, but if I would buy or make something I thought might put a smile on someone else's face for a similar reason to mine, that I would feel comfortable to putting it up here. This while talking of things I'm still learning to accept and deal with, or things that are too personal and private, is something that doesn't come easy at all.
As for as part of the dynamic - I don't care for being given things randomly, even if they're related to my interests: Items are like words, easy and abundant in our society. Actual direct effort and care is what really matters for the actual dynamic. You're focusing on what people feel safer sharing because that's the part you get to see the most, rather that what they actually do in their dynamic. Other kinds of sub emotions and stories are a lot more normalized than this kind (though I admit that it's gotten really trendy the past few years), it weirds people out a lot more. And so, there are fewer who are willing to go into depth about it. Words may be difficult to find too.
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Also, having/getting items can be kind of a self medication thing when you want events and interactions you can't have (you want D/s but you're without playmate/partner). I have a "normal"-sub friend who keeps buying a lot of things that makes him feel submissive to wear and play with in the privacy of his own home, because he's for now without a better outlet, and doesn't want to desperately throw himself at absolutely anyone just to get those needs met.

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