Think of it like learning to play the piano. At first you are just pressing keys, having no clue which keys to press next, or the tempo is correct or not. Eventually you will learn to read notes and understand the sound each key makes and then finally you will learn to play comfortably. If you have trained in anything, school, skiing, driving, video games, you know how long it takes to be marginally good at anything. In any of those training, usually you do not attach your ego or self-esteem to it, you know you will get good at it at some point if you keep doing it so usually you do not cry or get mad at not understanding something immediately because you understand you have to pass your exams to be successful or you have to learn to drive because it is very important for you to learn, you know that it is just a matter of time and your perseverance.
Apply the same concept to game. Do it everyday and think of it like you are playing a video game that you have to level up. Do not attach yourself ego to it. Just practice to get to the next level or unlock some cool feature. If you can't after your first try, no problem, come back to it after you had your lunch, and keep doing it because you CAN NOT fail at this, just like you CAN NOT fail at learning to drive, you will keep doing it until you pass because you know that it will be very painful for you not to learn such an important SKILL. Well game is essentially like driving but for your existence. You can not expect to have a successful life if you do not "GAME".
The real problem is do you really know how important learning game is? Or do you just want to do it because you feel lonely at this moment, or somebody told you to do it? You have to make it personal. If you are left on a mountain by yourself, and your options are to die in the freezing cold or make your way down no matter how tired, hurt you are what would you do. It is not an option, it is passage to life. You have to do it or else you are not living. You do it not because you want to have sex necessarily, but to develop to a fully matured human being who can accomplish anything, sex is just the icing on top. Remember when you were a baby, who showed you how to walk, talk, eat, breath etc...Nobody really you just did it so many times embarrassingly, but you didn't care because as a baby you had no ego and you didn't care. Later on when you were growing up, you were supposed to have developed the "skill of gaming" naturally similar to the "skill of eating, walking etc..." , but something happened, usually over protective mother who left you alone, a father who was rude or didn't care for you too much....etc. But that is besides the point, you didn't develop that skill, you just ignored it, now you are playing catch up with an enemy which is a fully developed EGO, imagine if you didn't learn to walk as a baby, just like that you didn't accomplish this one skill, which you were supposed to learn just because you are a human, that would have allowed you to transition to a more complete functioning man. Realize that it is not your fault, and absolutely know that you can learn the skill like any other skill, but make sure it is 100% your priority. Again your purpose it not to have sex or get girlfriends, but to be a real alpha man.
You are not alone, there are lots of people with this issue including me. Sometimes by accident I strike a conversation with a cute girl, and to my surprise it actually goes well. When I tell this to my friends, they laugh at me because for them it like telling them I can breath, drink or eat. But for me it is a big deal, just like the first time I learned to walk. Game is about confidence and self-esteem primarily. You have to build that no matter what it takes. TRP suggests building SMV 1)GYM 2)Change your style even if you don't like it now, get a different hair cut, shave, buy fitted clothing, find what looks good on you, wear something you don't wear everyday. 3)READ. Do this for a while and then APPROACH Approach APPROACH any person you see 100% of the time. Just say good morning or Hi to everybody you see looking at them straight in the eye. Learn to complement people about their shoes, jacket etc...ask them where they got it from...And be very very comfortable at BOMBING really bad, and then do it over and over again until it becomes as natural as breathing. Actually learn to enjoy those moments because you have to kill your ego.
At the end, there are no such ropes, but there are many good books you can read regarding, psychology, fashion, dating that will help you. The "the rope" is to do it over and over and over again, until it comes naturally to you.
As far as sex, understand that you are a sexual being, there is no hiding that, I know it, you know it even if you try to hide it from yourself and the entire world knows it. No need to be ashamed about being sexual, there are 7Billion of us, how did that happen? Learn to be comfortable with your body, sexuality, there is nothing embarrassing about it. Every girl you see is more sexual that you can ever imagine, they are not some fragile innocent beings. Be proud of your sexuality. The more you try to hide it the more people will find you creepy because you are hiding something that is part of you, and people think something is wrong. For starters, get a massage, and do exercises like bioenergetics and meditate. Hope that helps