I can kinda see what you mean, because of the way OP described things. But just in case you doubt that women like this exist : what OP expresses isn´t so rare, for example, I´ve seen it being expressed by "unconventional looking" people, trans people , "bimbos", submissive (as a fetish) women, hypersexual women, "masculine brain" women, women that are getting older and seeing a shift in how they´re perceived etc. I´m sure there are many of them, but still a minority.

Heck, I even asked something similar on a bdd sub not long ago, there are many that could relate to it.When one feels like a monster and is normally either bullied or ignored (but never sexually objectified) being objectified in a positive way, shortly and unhealthily relieves anxiety and boosts self-esteem.