It's completely anonymous. It's extremely frustrating and feels hopeless to watch someone you care deeply about not caring about the things they used to care about, no longer sharing once mutual priorities, and growing more and more distant despite your best genuine effort to be there for them and be close to them. I commend OP for really thinking about his emotions and seeking guidance on an extremely personal and difficult issue. Most people aren't introspective or brave enough to confront issues in their marriage and passively allow their marriages to spiral and become loveless. You're jumping to conclusions making character judgements about OP because he's confronting negative emotions about his spouse when that's a very important step to making things better. You're dismissing and invalidating OP despite implying that's what he's doing to his spouse with zero evidence or background knowledge.