Loner issues

Two years ago, said was you. I eat at home every holiday except for the only party invitations I could score (to my parent's house.) one day I just said, you know what? I can't keep doing this.

So I went to a Meetup. I was so terrified I almost left as soon as I parked. But I stayed, and I met some good people. One of those is now one of my best friends. I started doing more meetups and trying to organize things at my work with the people my age (of which there are not a lot.) it takes time and persistence, but now I have a somewhat healthy social life. You just have to stop making excuses and get comfortable feeling uncomfortable.

I also went to therapy and did CBT. I focused on fixing my flawed thinking, which really helped my self esteem, which helped me be more social.

However one thing I really struggle with still is accepting that I'm an introvert and for me, having a successful social life doesn't mean the same thing it does for extroverts. Don't push yourself too hard if you are feeling overtaxed.

Mostly you have to put yourself out there. You can do it!

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