Long post: More heart broken about ending things with AP, than guilt for cheating on current husband. I feel guilt & anger and completely lost.

It's a crime for someone who doesn't do it. But someone who are involved in it still have some ground rules around it. The whole point is that when he made a move on me, HE was the one that pursued me. I was reluctant initially cz I had ended things with AP1 voluntarily & gave him time to question & understand each others point of views. I wasn't someone who just ghosted him, and blocked him from everywhere so that all of a sudden he starts feeling fooled and used. I wasn't someone who tried blaming the want to end the affair on my husband and that he is being handful or something.

I knew what we got into, and told him logically that I do not feel the urge to cheat anymore & made him understand it. I wasn't someone who had a whirlwind affair and then just left letting the other person feel used and abandoned!

I don't know if you get this but I wasn't unfair and I didn't PLAY it dirty.

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