The pandemic has been an anomaly.

When it started I did the same things as you. I wrote a novel. I learned several new programming languages and completely revamped a project I had been toying with for years because I finally had time to work on it. I developed a few new apps and overhauled some of my company's boilerplate documents and created automated processes for handling those.

My husband went the other route. He started gaming and drinking more and all the things that go along with that.

Without the same outside influences of work and someone else setting our schedules, we fell into different routines and I know that he (probably both of us) picked up some habits that are real turn offs.

My husband gets super drunk and then gets sloppy affectionate. It's a huge boner killer for me.

We are on completely different sleep schedules now and seeing him waste his time napping does nothing to spur the romantic juices for me.

His idea of tackling a project is going back and rewatching an entire series of a show from beginning to end.

Now that things are starting to return to "normal" I'm curious how many of those habits we have adopted are here to stay and how much we will fall back into older routines that were more in line with each other.

I see a similar trend with my parents. They both retired several years ago. With my mother, when she retired, it was like she had a list of all the things that she had been wanting to do and got busy doing them. She opened a greenhouse business and worked from sunup to sundown on that. She joined a ton of organizations and quickly was voted into leadership roles of all those groups. She is still going nonstop and hasn't stopped moving. My father, on the other hand, when he retired, sat down in the la-z-boy in front of the tv and hasn't gotten up since.

I am sympathetic to your situation, but I really have no advice.

I think I agree with what the other commenter said that if you're looking for an excuse to break up, then do it. Only time will tell whether that was the right choice or not.