Lost sexual interest after break of trust

Not everyone likes watching strangers fuck. Some people might dislike it and feel no connection to it because it doesnt have a personal connection. Ofcourse porn is a case by case basis and for others it will fulfill fantasies etc. For him the first is simply the matter. Whether he hasnt watched it in years or has doesnt even matter as long as he is honest about it and he has no reason to lie so meh. I trust him as my partner and I can see he genuinely doesnt enjoy porn and that is okey. No shame. Also regarding the grudge he told me because of our fight he did it. Everyone makes mistakes and people do things to hurt others sometimes in the heat of the moment. People grow from it. Maybe a bit screwed up, but people do mistakes. I acknowledge that and its fine. However my problem is that its a bit hard to move past that he broke the agreement because I believe in communication. Since he did it out of concern for the fight and not because he secretly wanted to watch porn I cant really say he had to communicate it, but I still dwell on the break of trust. Im working on it though, even if I dont know what approach I should take. Even then reddit seems to be useless because everyone starts commenting on it being a controlling abusive relationnship since he cant watch porn when he simply doesnt want to. People seem to focus too much on fitting it in a stereotype, rather than being open minded to different boundaries per relationship and actually giving advice regarding on whats asked. No need to go against what I know about him and say its wrong simply because he doesnt fit stereotypes. Or say he has no self respect because he doesnt watch porn when he doesnt like it etc. People are just assuming things and Im not here to explain to everyone how my relationship is because its not how every relationship is. I simply asked for how to move on past a break of trust, but instead everyone goes around commenting on why I should allow him to watch porn or how he secretly likes it. This is immature sadly.

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