I have had good experiences and bad. When the couple views themself as a unit and you're a third it hasn't really worked. There's no way I can like two people in the exact same way, right away. It is 3 separate connections. One of the couples didn't like that I liked the girl more right away and was interested in the guy but we didn't become close as quickly. I was still wanting to date him but...you're not the same person! Maybe that's the difference for me. I understand that a couple has a different connection than I have to either of them, but they are 2 different people with different personalities and I will usually be closer to one than the other in the beginning. I also have always been able to date other people...they typically want a lot of alone time and I'm not going to sit at home pining for them. If I can't see who I want to then it doesn't feel like poly to me. I need the freedom to like or love whomever I choose to pursue. I don't want to feel hindered.