I'll tell you my own story on why you shouldn't do love spells. I am not proud of this and if I could go back in time and stop myself from doing it I would.
I was in a situationship with a boy I truly felt like could be the right one for me. I fantasized about marrying him, having kids, building a life with him. We had a fair amount in common and the physical connection felt magical. I daydreamed about him constantly, I would count down the days until the next time I got to see him.
The only problem was he "wasn't ready" and "wasn't sure if we would work out'. He had been deeply hurt in the relationship he had previous to meeting me. I thought the only thing keeping us from having our 'happy ever after' was his emotional pain. Surely if that's all it was then a love spell would be justified, right?
I did the spell, and things improved for a bit. But he still wasn't ready to commit to me. So I did it again. Same cycle, some improvement but not where I wanted it. I kept doing it until he confessed he loved me, but even during his confession he said he had doubts about us working out. Looking back, that should have been a red flag that I had manipulated his feelings, but the person I got the spell from had promised it was a "if it's meant to be" type thing and wouldn't mess with his free will, I believe now it truly did.
But I didn't see that at the time. I told him if we both love each other we should give us a chance, neither of us could predict the future and we wouldn't know what could happen if we didn't try. We talked from 9pm-3am that night, and he agreed we should give us a chance. I was elated, I didn't even necessarily attribute it to the spell initially. I was happy to finally be with him and stopped performing the spell.
Things between us were good at first. But over time all the reasons he had doubts reared their head. After one particular day where we really weren't vibing, I called him to talk about it and he broke things off with me. I was heartbroken. But I decided to respect his wishes after making it clear I did not agree with his decision.
A few weeks later, we got back in contact and he told me how much he missed me. We hung out and it was magical, no spell needed. Things were going very good between us for a few weeks. Until I found out he was on tinder. I was very nasty to him, He reiterated once again he loved me but he didn't see a future. While he deleted tinder in front of me that day, My anxiety was at an all-time high. I started doing the spell again every few weeks. Things would be good, great even for a while, then something small would happen that made me realize he didn't love me the way I wanted him to.
I realized that instead of a natural, organic love that he chose, I was getting a love I had unintentionally manipulated him into and that's why it repeatedly left me disappointed and probably left him feeling trapped without knowing why.
I started getting heavy into my shadow work, to figure out what drove me to even do a love spell like this on the first place, why I didn't believe myself worthy of someone loving me without manipulation, why I so desperately wanted him I turned to magic. I realized and uncovered a lot of painful and ugly parts of myself and started working on healing those aspects of me, through therapy and healing spells and praying. I also released the love spell, the ugly feelings and patterns I held, and my unhealthy attachment to him through magic. This process was not fun and I realized I caused myself more pain by doing the love spell then I would have endured if I had just taken his no the first time.
By some miracle he and I are friends. Not close and I don't expect this to ever develop into something more again, but I'm so thankful I kept him in my life despite what I did. I learned my lesson the hard way and it inadvertently hurt myself and him.
All a love spell is is a temporary fix, I think it is much better to find love organically. You should want to be with somebody who wants to love you, not somebody who needs to be pushed into loving you. You deserve that.