3. LPT: No matter what people tell you, you don't have to forgive someone to find p...

LPT: No matter what people tell you, you don't have to forgive someone to find peace

Yeah, about 15 years ago I dated a guy who was really manipulative and treated me really badly (I was crazy about him, he clearly didn't genuinely reciprocate that, and he really took advantage of the situation). I wouldn't say he was abusive but he was a really shit person. I struggled with trying to "forgive" him for about 2 years, even though of course he never asked for that because in his mind the way he had acted was totally fine. Then at some point it dawned on me that I could be totally fine for the rest of my life just remembering him as a jerk and not thinking about him very often. Something will remind me of him maybe once every eight months and when it does, I think, "Ha! What a d-bag, I hope his life sucks now." (From what I've heard third hand, it does: life is not kind to mean people in the long run). I wish I could go back and tell my 22-year-old self not to waste time trying to find "closure" or look for ways to accept a person who had treated me in a way that was really totally unacceptable.

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