3. LPT : stay away from *that* older guy

LPT : stay away from *that* older guy

My “friend”’s 26 year old boyfriend slapped my ass (I was maybe 16? Maybe?) when I was bending over to pick up a piece of litter at the theme park. I was horrified and she said nothing about it and he just laughed and smiled.

This is going to sound conceited anyway that I try to put it but the worst part was that I felt like I couldn’t complain or say anything (which enabled his creepy behavior) because she was angry with me because I was clearly “asking for it” (because she was overweight, not that attractive and dressed sort of plain). None of which was much of a thought to me up until then because ya know, I’m not a vapid shell of a human being. But in retrospect…

Her mom was totally ok with it though and actually supportive, I got a really fucked up desperate vibe of almost like, gratitude that a guy was interested in her daughter?

Years later I ran into her while I was at my job and she stone cold ignored me right to my face as if I wasn’t a human being at all. I ended up saying a few words to her mom and just walked away. So weird!

For the record, I’m a goofy soft hearted space case who loves books and hiking with my dog and so I really do not put out any intimidating or “baddie” energy at all. I am tall though and somewhat conventionally attractive and I think that inoculated me from a young age against older men (and my mom was not a spry chicky, she taught me to be aware) because I was used to men treating me more maturely than I was. I imagine it would be the same as girls who have very large boobs from a young age, sadly it’s just a reality that you just have to sort of learn how to handle creepy unwanted male attention a bit younger than your peers, unfortunately. So I could tell he was creepy from a mile away even before the incident and then when he did, I had no illusions about it being anything other than creepy and gross.

If I could do it over though, fully knowing the way she would treat me out all those years later, I would have kicked up a storm that day and ditched her as a “friend” right on the spot.

Actually, the worst part of it is that he made me doubt my being a good human being and bending over to pick up a piece of trash and made me regret PICKING UP A PIECE OF LITTER LIKE ANY GOOD PERSON WOULD DO.

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