I think we're having a miscommunication, because I don't understand how what I said implies that. I said that "I find" as in me, personally, not all bi/pan people, just me. Which is why I said pan fits my specific experience a bit better. If people want to be more or less attracted to certain genitals that's up to them, just for my bi/pan experience that is not the case. Bi is not wrong, because I am attracted to men and especially women, but pan is not wrong either cause if someone falls somewhere in between male/female or neither, I can be attracted to them too. I'm not defining the labels, I was expressing my sexuality and what labels I use to describe it to others based on the person I am talking to and what I think their understanding of non-hetero sexualities is.