Lurking...

Here is my legit existential quandary - if I have a lover that does not detract but enrich my marriage, and my wife is happier, where is the bad in that? If the lover's needs are also being met, there is no downside. I am lying or being dishonest? But I am not taking anything from my wife our marriage, just enhancing. Not time, energy or emotional dedication. Having a lover makes me a much better husband, puts me in a better mood and usually gives me a built in therapist. Why is that bad? My marriage vows say I will love, honor, cherish and support my wife through sickness and health and that is what I am doing... I guess the more noble path would be obscure porn or hiring an escort or better yet coming home with an STD? Judging me and my actions are easy but I sleep well at night and no my wife feels loved and cherished.

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