I’m (21F) worried that my boyfriend (21M) is actually homophobic, and how it might effect our relationship in the future

Thank you for the helpful advice. He really is kind in all other aspects and respects me otherwise. His family is kind of religious so I'm not sure how they would react if they knew. I've become a part of his family, but they don't know I'm bisexual. His parents tell me they love me, and I hang out with his siblings all the time. I don't think they would banish me from their home or something like that.

I've told him the first point before and that's when he said he really does want to understand it, but we just go in circles when we're talking about it so I needed different things to say from outside perspectives.

The second point I've also brought up but he says he does feel guilty for having pre-marital sex and it eats at him. I said we could go celibate if he really wanted, but also mentioned that since we already started having sex it's an important part of our relationship now, which would be hard to lose. So we haven't stopped.

The third point I've also mentioned to him but probably not as in-depth as I should have. I saved a few Reddit posts that talk about different translations of like the top 8 verses used to prove gay is a sin, and other sins that we all commit daily as humans.

I'm hoping he can come around because although we're young, I do want to at least try and make this work.

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