I’m just curious, why do you cheat?

My wife is amazing and tries super hard. I am attracted to her and we communicate well. Our problem, is when we met she was in her sexual prime and we'd have sex 3/4 times a day. Now, maybe once a month with handjobs here and there. She is going through menopause and my sex drive never slowed down. I've talked to her about it but the interest is just not there.

If I didn't genuinely care about my wife or her feelings I would just tell her, I want out. I am not breaking a single marital vow. I vowed to always care for her, support her, love her, and cherish her. Which I do, daily. None of my affairs detract from my marriage, they only help me stay and honor my vows. Also for me, the affair is not about sex so much is about intimacy. Being close and feeling close and being happy so I can be good to my wife.

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