I’m a Kinsey 4/5 and often feel out of place in both bi and gay communities because of it. How do other homo-leaning folks work to relate to hetero-leaning folks and vice versa?

I’m on the opposite side of the scale but often find myself saying, “But am I REALLY bi?”. I’ve dated men exclusively, barring a single relationship with a woman who I was very attracted to and liked a fair bit. There probably would have been more women in between had I been out. I picture myself marrying a man, however when I came out, I realized that I could marry a woman. I have not written off women entirely and am still open to meeting whoever makes me happiest, regardless of gender.

Sometimes I don’t “feel” bi at all, if that makes any sense, especially if I’m in a hetero-relationship/dating men. But then I’ll see a beautiful woman and remember that I still like girls. On the flip side, when I was dating a woman, attractive men reminded me of my bisexuality.

At the end of the day, I like the sofa bed analogy. I’ve spent the greater majority of my life as a sofa, although I’m technically still a sofa bed.

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