I’m Melissa Urban, Whole30 co-founder and New York Times bestselling author of The Book of Boundaries, and I’m here to help you set boundaries in all of your relationships this holiday season. AMA!

I have a boundary related question that I would love to ask you. So I am a young woman, and my husband and I have been together since we were teens. Because of that, I am very close with his family. An uncle of his and I became very close because we would have conversations about STEM (he is an engineer and I am a biochemist). Recently he reached out to discuss politics while I was at work. I replied thinking that we could have a civil debate (as this had been a safe space for communication before), but unfortunately it devolved into chaos. Without making this a long story, I cut the conversation off by saying “I love you and I respect you but I do not agree with your opinion, and I am entitled to my own. I wish you the best day but I will be taking politics off the table since I do not feel safe having this conversation with you, and I will not be discussing politics with you any further.” He proceeded to be upset and said “no subjects should be off limits for discussion amongst families. I don’t agree with your communication.” And he proceeded to block me from contacting him. I have not addressed this issue any further (as to respect his boundaries), but I am wondering what advice you may have for me since I will be having to interact with this person come the holidays. Is there any way to reconcile with this person or should I just turn the other cheek and be cordial? Thank you in advance!

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