I’m not a people person and I’m tired

Oh, god. I just had a baby 2 weeks ago (who's still in the NICU) and I'm dealing with the same thing from my mom and MIL. They met the baby exactly 1 week ago and are already pushing to visit again. They both live an hour away, the hospital only allows two people (1 being me or my husband) in at the same time, and the baby is recovering from a mild infection. I don't feel like doing a one on one NICU baby tour for 4 grandparents while she's on antibiotics and my husband and I are only seeing her a few hours a day ourselves.

Also annoying - they want pictures and specific updates via text every day and expect me to answer a million specific questions for every piece of information i share (ex. i tell them that the baby had all her meals via bottle for the first time today and they want to know how many MLs, what her weight is, and what times they're feeding her). It's making me crazy. I expected to implement a no visitors for the first 2 weeks rule once she comes home with no guilt or push back but I'm starting to feel like it's going to be a whole thing. Even worse is the fact that we live in a NYC apartment with limited space to host people comfortably.

Prior to this we saw our parents roughly every 4-6 weeks which is how my husband and I both like it. I absolutely do not want to deal with the expectation that it will be any more than that in the future.

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