i’m scared to become my mother

Besides being mindful of all these behaviors, I think it’s so important to feel good and strong inside. Like have time to relax, to feel beauty, love, peace, to let out your anger in healthy way (sports for example). It’s hard to keep our anger and agression at bay when all our energy is used to contain them.

I noticed this with my nmom that she would do chores without having a meal for a few hours in the morning, and refuse to eat even if we asked her to. The results usually were: she threw tantrums and blamed all her discomfort on us. But if only she could have eaten and taken better care of herself, she could be less abusive.

So being responsible for one’s own well-beings is definitely something we should not neglect if we don’t want to be like them.

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