I’m sick of guys wanting to have sex with me but not date me

I’m sick of guys wanting to have sex with me but not date me

I’m honestly saddened by this generations way of dating and sex. I’m a wonderful girl. I’m bright and educated and have a great job. I have a wonderful family and I was raised by two amazing people. I have so many friends and I’m surrounded by platonic love. I’ve been single for six years and lately, the way men treat me has made me sick to my stomach. I am constantly being pursued for sex but never for anything else. No conversation, nothing personal. If it is, it’s only for them to get what they want. I go off and on being celibate, but I live in the biggest city in America. I’m in my early 20s, I deserve to have fun but I miss being seen for who I am romantically.

I’m sad about it. I deserve more.

I miss being understood. I miss someone wanting to understand me.

To be used for your body and dumbed down to an object is making me feel insecure, even if that means I’m attractive physically.

It makes me feel like I have nothing else to offer. Like, no one could actually like me for anything else.

EDIT: Yes, I do live in New York City, which is notoriously a very difficult place to date due to over saturation and there is a gender imbalance. There is more women than men.

EDIT 2: Please stop making assumptions about my sex life. Just because guys are pursuing me for nothing but sex, doesn’t mean I’m continuously having sex with them. Obviously, I reject a ton and that’s why I am struggling. Even if I didn’t, that does not make me unworthy of love.

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