There was a popular book out a few years ago written by a guy to help women understand why a guy didn't like them: "He's just not that into you."

It is that simple. It's nothing personal. There is nothing wrong with you. it was nothing you said. Nothing you did. She's just not that into you.

So now you do what you need to do to protect your own self. Are you cool with hanging out on Sunday? I hope so because she sounds up front with you. But you have to not have strong feelings anymore for her. Just let the friendship be what is going to be.

Also, you two should plan things to do in groups so that you stay in contact with each other and stay friends without the pressure of romantic thoughts invading your time together. Being alone with someone you have romantic thoughts about will be hard.

I don't want to give you false hope when she has made it clear that she is not ready for a relationship, but girls change their minds when they see a guy respect them. And when he can be fun and reliable and hang with other people. And if he has a life of his own with his own friends and hobbies and this really great.

So your best bet is to just be yourself and go on with your life. But invite her to come along sometimes. She may never see you the same way that you see her, but it won't be a waste of time to developed a friendship.

My husband fell in love with "Judy" and wanted to marry her. But it didn't take her long to see he was not right for her. They stayed great friends and he held a flame for her right up until she said,"I do" to another man. At that instant he was able to give up hope.

It took a few years to find me, and I was introduced to Judy right away. She is a fabulous person and I think my husband had great taste in falling for her. She was a huge help at my wedding, and she and her husband will take in our kids if we both die.

One reason there is a happy ending to this is because when she was honest with my husband he respected her decision and never pushed it or brought it up again. That way they could maintain their awesome friendship.

Also, they never had sex. I think that would have changed the way things ended as well. if they had been sexually active with each other, I don't think they would have stayed friends.

The moral of my long story is don't push it. Don't be alone too much. Respect her wishes. stay the awesome guy you are because she really likes you and values your friendship. It may lead to more later, but do not count on it Jay count on a good friend and being a good friend.