I[M26] Think I'm Falling for One of My gf's[F24] Friends[F24]

What you Need to Know about Love"

  • People compare and confuse the intensity of being “in love” during an affair with the secure, comfortable feeling of reality-based “loving” that occurs in long-term relationships.
  • The feeling of being “in love” is linked to Stage I idealization, passion and infatuation.
  • True love, which you grow into, is characterized by acceptance, understanding, and compassion. That is why so few people end up marrying their affair partner, and those who do have an extremely high probability of divorce.
  • Once the affair is no longer the forbidden relationship that takes place in a golden bubble, the cold light of day soon bursts the romantic fantasies.

That's from a Not Just Friends, a book by Shirley Glass that discusses the need for boundaries in relationships and the slide into affairs.

Your girlfriend's friend never had any interest in being a friend to your relationship. She made it clear from the very first meeting that she wanted you for herself. You are human and responded. It's time to put on the brakes to your slide into cheating and think about what you really want. I doubt that you want to be the guy who cheated on his girlfriend with her best friend. So don't be him. Withdraw from the friendship and focus on your relationship with your girl friend.

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