Making friends that are not LDS in your 40s

Just be genuine and honest, if you want to make friends be yourself. All you have to do is be comfortable and talk to someone - it doesn't matter where you are.

For me I could be out on a walk, out to dinner, at the hardware store. The place I am doesn't matter - you just have to learn how to have a conversation.

And in the event that you're holding a conversation and would like to be friends with someone or see them in the future.

Ask for their phone number be bold and give them yours too.

Friendship takes work.

Mormonism on the other hand, you thought those people were your friends because you saw them every week at church, maybe you were even their Home/Visiting teacher before it was rebranded to "Ministering."

But those friendships were not real, they were forced because of the LDS church. Unless you actually did things with these people in real life too.

Similarly just because I went to Scout Camp with people from church this didn't make them my actual friend.

You have to realize that the church was still the main focus or relationship, everything else was secondary.

They didn't know me or my spouses real name and "Brother" or "Sister" doesn't count.

Mormonism makes friends of circumstance, which is just an acquaintance.

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