You don't seem to take her issues or feelings about the relationship very seriously. It's very normal for someone to want to "find themselves" before settling into a long term relationship, and I think it's pretty shortsighted of you to brush off her saying that is "immature." I see a lot of how you THINK the relationship was going, and very little of you actually SEEING what's been happening. If you two are staying together, I highly recommend you getting couples therapy. You have a very obvious problem communicating together. You sound like you listen to her needs, but you don't really hear what she's saying. She SAID she wants to "find herself." So.... instead of you two planning a trip, getting out there, maybe doing something new and exciting to help her find herself, you say in your post you have spent the last 2 weeks cooking, cleaning, and doing couple things. Sooo basically you're back to your same comfortable couple lifestyle and you have completely forgotten all about the girl wanting to get out more? I'll be real with you. If you keep ignoring her needs and brushing them off as "immature," you are gonna feel like one big dumb idiot when she finally does cheat on you and leave you.