I'm not saying hatred of anyone is justified, but if you were a woman who saw society the way they did, you might feel similarly. They see every aspect of society as tilted in favor of men, and they see almost no men doing anything to change what they benefit from. So they feel hatred toward them.

I'm not saying it's right (by any stretch of the imagination). In fact, this happens all the time when two groups have different sets of values and try to coexist. There's gonna be people on both sides who believe the other group is full of terrible people who somehow threaten their way of life, or what they think is the right way to live.

But some of those groups have a bit more credibility than others. White people who act out their prejudices against non-white people might feel justified because they believe their society, which used to hold one set of values, is being encroached upon by people who share different sets of values, so it's OK to take action to get them to leave. Personally, I think that's complete bullshit. On the other side, you have people of color who see white people as having an inherent advantage in our society. Hating people for the color of their skin is always wrong, but I can understand negative feelings held by non-whites toward whites more easily than the other way around.

I've kind of been rambling here, but my point is: for lots of radfems, holding negative feelings toward men and wanting to fundamentally reorder society go hand in hand. We can still believe that hating anyone because of something they can't control is wrong, and I certainly hope we don't let go of that belief. But if you don't see society as inherently flawed in the way radfems do, then you're going to see a group of man-haters, rather than a group of revolutionaries.