I’ve found that my life is much easier without close “platonic male friends”. My close guy friends are all gay and I’m fine with this.
I learned that befriending straight men is a waste of time unless you’re in a couple and befriending other couples. You can have straight men as acquaintances and +1s for social situations, sure, but I think my life has been better without close straight male friends. The straight guys I like as friends 90% of the time are not attractive and do not have the same life ambitions. Knowing that most don’t befriend you to ONLY remain friends, I’ve concluded it’s a total waste of time.
You do need some +1s to go out in groups with who are uninvested in you enough to introduce you around. You meet people through them.
+1 guy =/= close male friend.