Man killed by Caltrain had written about depression while at Gunn High

This is a dilemma for me too. High school was overall unenjoyable for me but having to push myself in school has paid off in dividends. The common denominator among my friends who graduated with me was super high college GPAs without having to do any form of insane studying because high school trained us ridiculously well.

In some ways I look back and think there's a way of pushing and keeping it healthy but also not want to permanently scar kids where they resent the school and parents forever.

I'm wayyyyyy far off from being a parent and probably never will be but I think the right way is having high expectations for your kids but encouraging them to communicate with you and remaining supportive of them even if they come home with a bad test score, sometimes even if they come home with a bad test score multiple times in a row...

I think this is one of the major issues underlying the environment at these schools; parents pushing their kids super hard while also forgetting or deliberating ignoring the fact that they're kids under a lot of stress. My parents had high expectations of me and hoped I'd attend a top school, but remained adamant about letting them know if something was wrong and committed their unconditional support and I think this is what prevented me from losing my mind or self-harming

Many of my friends didn't have this outlet and what fueled some of their suicidal ideations was feeling like no one was willing to acknowledge what they were going through or do anything to help

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