Marriage help

Then they're manipulating him emotionally the same way he's manipulating you. And they're doing it to other people in the congregation and that means they're doing it to your community. This church isn't just your husband's problem; it's a threat to your town.

I'd recommend investigating the church leadership to the best of your ability. Check the Sunday school first. If the leadership is doing this to regular congregants, then they're doing it to their children. Look for signs of abuse among the children of the church leadership. If your church has youth pastors, look into them. See if you can find out which ones make the kids uncomfortable; youth pastors are notorious chickenhawks.

Look for signs of alcohol and drug abuse among the leadership's wives. Their husbands will be the ones most likely to have ties to white supremacy, porn addiction, or Grindr accounts. See what the men who used to, "struggle with same sex attraction," are up to. Praying the gay away never sticks.

Does the upper clique of the church membership seem to have a more lavish lifestyle than their means should allow? That's a sign of shady finances or massive debt.

Are there pretty teenage girls in the congregation? Look for the adult man, aside from their fathers, who talk to those girls the most. Whoever that guy is, he's up to some kinda no good.

Dig up some dirt on them; based on their labor practices they're going to have some serious dirt. If it's not enough to convince your husband it'll at least cause him to doubt. And if you can expose the church for being naughty, you could liberate other victims which is a worthwhile pursuit in itself.

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