Girl... I don’t know how your gonna manage but trust me you need to move out for your sake and your children’s. YOU did not marry his family and you absolutely do not need to live with them, especially how your BIL is being. If your MIL guilt trips you so much, tell her to buy a house in whatever neighborhood you choose to live in. That way she can still stay close with your family and your family will also have their own privacy. You also need to set boundaries in this household.

My mother has been in the exact same situation as you while she lived with her in laws for 4 years while my father was studying overseas and I cannot tell you the emotional toll it has on her. Her BIL was extremely rude and would openly berate her in front of her MIL and FIL and they wouldn’t say anything. I cannot tell you how toxic that entire ordeal had been for her.

Do you want your children to grow up in such a toxic environment? Please consider moving out for the sake of your family. Your children deserve a loving and caring environment to grow up in: