I think this is a part of it. However, in communities of color, the men tend to make false promises of marriage to get sex to several women until he has used 20+ women and then marries only the "perfect" one - usually a Harvard grad who wears a size zero. I think this is what is meant by "amount of lives ruined"; he deliberately made those other women wait for him thinking that they had a chance when he already knew that he only wanted a size zero Harvard grad and was using the others for sex.

This is less common in White communities, so this is the reason that the post doesn't make sense to other people. Men of color should go after what they want instead of tearing through tons of women like tornados going through a neighborhood. Pick the Harvard grad from the start and stop lying to the others.