Hateful? No. Frustrated, yes. Those are the words of a man who is repeatedly denies, minimised, or invalidated on his abuse.

I've cried 3 days out of 3 and spent 20 hours writing court paperwork that I'm terrified will be thrown out because it will be met with gender bias, and by lies from my abuser.

Regardless, continuing to interact with me - admittedly I had to invest a lot of effort to have you hear me - you have learned that I'm not the monster you assumed I was.

You'll find that many of the men you struggle with, who seem to make hateful or snide remarks, are just like me. We just want to be heard, but never are, so it leads to increasing frustration any time we see double standards that relate to our own experiences.