Maybe TMI?

I feel like more people should talk about this lol I love this topic. I was single when I got sober but I can relate, I used to have drunk sex all the time and when I stopped drinking completely, it was like my sex drive just fell off a cliff. I didn't know exactly what was causing it.. I felt like, out of touch with my body, any sober touch and affection felt way too intimate (let alone actually having sex with someone), all my emotions and physical receptors felt crossed and confused. I would say it was like this for the first few months... then my sex drive got really high and I was horny all the time, but anytime I'd end up in bed or on the couch with a new person, I'd find myself not able to fuck them. So I'd just put my clothes on, excuse myself and go home. Lol. It happened over and over, I thought maybe I'm broken, because these dudes all seem nice and attractive but there's something else not clicking. My sex drive was still so high though, I'd just masturbate like twice or three times a day, and then hope maybe the next person would click and sex would feel natural again like it did when I was drinking (just minus the drinking part now).

And it did! it felt right and I could fuck people again. And my sex drive is still really high. and the sex i have feels a lot better for me and i get to remember all of it and then replay my favorite parts later which is another plus. I think there's a period of body and mind recalibration that just takes time. I don't think it's the same amount of time for everybody (mine was maybe 1-1.5 years into sobriety), could be faster for you, but that was my experience.

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