Me 13M I'm being pressured to have sex with my moms freinds son 17M he is telling me im homophobic if i dont and will tell everyone at our school

His family needs to know he's preying on underage boys-- which is what you are. You might not feel it, but you're still a kid, basically. And someone who is almost an adult is trying to have sex with you, a minor. You are way, WAY too young to be doing this stuff, or hanging around people who are seriously talking about having sex. It's natural to be curious at this age, but you really need to protect yourself from a what will be a bunch of unnecessary, damaging bullshit.

Having sex so young (especially with someone you don't want to have sex with) will scar you for life. It will warp your views on sex and intimacy, and make it hard to connect with others. Protect and save yourself from that. This includes girls. You really should be focused on just having fun. At your age, you can be care-free, learn, and just chill with your buddies. Sex WILL ruin everything. Drugs/alcohol too. Please think about this. You'll never be a teenager again. Throwing in all the "adult" crap will just bring you misery a lot sooner, because you aren't ready. No one your age is, no matter how "cool" they try to act.

Second, your really need to stress this to your mother. Tell her exactly what he said, and that it was NOT a misunderstanding. Tell her that it's irresponsible of her to dismiss you saying such a serious thing. It's very, very serious to have someone preying on you and threatening you. She needs to wake up.

And as shitty as this sounds... He may spread the rumor if you refuse. And let him. Just deal with it when you see people. If they act all weird, just tell them "Did [guy] say I hate gay people? Oh, that's just because I didn't want to have sex with him. He made me uncomfortable and I like girls." That's all you have to say. It isn't homophobic to be straight, or to not want to have sex with someone.

Please be careful. People are getting dragged into this stuff younger and younger. My boyfriend lost his virginity at a young age, and he had an older girl take advantage of him for a long time. It really messed him up emotionally and now at 28 years old he's still picking up the pieces, because for him it led from one bad relationship to another. That's what happens when you play with fire like this. It's really, really best to avoid this stuff, even with girls. I really hope that people in your life have explained this to you. Sex is awesome but when you're young it can really mess with your head. You will never be a teenager again, you will never be this young again. You will never be able to relax and chill with your buddies like you do now once you're an adult. Don't muddle it with serious girlfriend (or boyfriend) drama.

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